Update: -STBXW suffers from major depression, needs to leave me and the state to get out of depression -STBXW moves to another state 8/2011 -legal separation 1/2012 -moves in with OM in yet another state 2/2012 -returns to state #1 9/2012; relationship with OM seems to have cooled -starts new 4-month job 9/2012
We have seen each other a couple of times (May and July). Lots of fun, no drama
Now xW is in her new job, and in her rental home in another state. I have done my best to not contact her, and to let her drive any contact. She is slowly contacting me more and more often. Talks of being lonely, feeling like she does not have anyone, feeling homeless. Seems to like talking to me, and tells me she is glad I am there for support. I want to be there for her, but do not want to push her or seem to be pursuing her. I know she is depressed and feeling bad, but I know she needs to deal with this on her own.
What do I do here? Contact her occassionally, or leave things up to her? This has been going on so long, it is hard to fathom. Thoughts would be most appreciated.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
