FY- Thanks I appreciate the support its good to know we’re not in this alone. I do need to take some control back, but that is no small feat as the WAS will fight this.
Journaling – It has been interesting few days. My W in the last few weeks has started to ask me for things. This is a major step forward as she had told me in previous conversations that see wouldn’t do this as it made her feel uncomfortable. She has asked for some small things like help with her moms house that is getting ready to be rented to a new tenant, which I gladly helped with. She has asked also for some fairly major things also. She wants us to buy a new car so she can save money on fuel, she drives a SUV now and the cars she’s considering would save a lot of money in gas. She also asked if I’d be ready to redo our kitchen, which has been a sore spot for her because she wanted to do this as far back as 2 years ago and I dropped the ball and didn’t run with it so to speak.
These are both good ideas and in principle I have no problem doing. The money is there to do both of these things. I am curious why someone considering divorce would want to undertake these things now, just seems to muddy the water if things progress to D. As I’ve stated in previous post if we do move to D then money would be a factor on both our part.
Also this past weekend my wife actually broke down emotionally to me and let me console her. The stress of what she’s going thru with her mom and bff, and us finally became too much for her to keep inside. I hugged her and held her and told her that we’d make it through this. I did ask her is I was overstepping by toughing her, as she told me before at this point she wasn’t comfortable with that, she said I wasn’t. She made a comment that she couldn’t control any of what was going on with them, I told her I knew and how much it must hurt not to be able too, and also told her what a great daughter and friend she was/is to them.
This to me seems to be real progress as in the past since BD she would never be vunerable or needy in front of me.
My Patience is key if more progress is to be made.
