[quote=snodderly]I have to say that I see a lot of posts here and I have yet to see any type of information on "what are the odds" == what are the chances that someone will ever come out of a MLC and how many do - most posts I see are people that ended in divorce anyway - I am really going out of my mind !!!
My research over the last 6 months shows the chance of R and return to a happy marriage to be slim. Substantially less than 50/50 anyway. All the more reason we need to concentrate on ourselves and not them.
I think one of the dangers of DBing is that our spouses lose respect for us how can you love and respect someone who lets you do whatever you want and takes it with no responsibility. I feel if I had been stronger from the beginning of this whole fiasco and said here is the line cross it and we're done - now it's to late - who wants someone who you can abuse the [censored] out of you and you just take it.
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
