So it seems like to me that my new 180 actions are causing the wife to be bitter more than normal. Is this common?
Yes, this is completely normal, and there are two reasons for this:
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Originally Posted By: Desperate man
So question of the day that is on my mind is what should your response be when your spouse tells you ILYBINILWY comment? Have not been told this but W actions are speaking this.
It should be the same as anything else she tells you. Validate her emotions, tell her things like "I understand why you feel that way." Don't argue, justify, explain, reason, etc. Just go with what she says even if you don't agree with it. Validating is not about agreeing or disagreeing, it's about confirming you understand and sympathize with her emotions. Let her do 80% of the talking and you be a great listener. Make eye contact, don't allow distractions, don't interrupt her. This will allow her to feel more comfortable opening up to you. It'll also diffuse any potential arguments.
