A friend to the mlcer is not the same as a friend would be to us. Friends don't lie, cheat or steal from a friend and they sure as heck do not treat a friend shabbily.
The mlcer wants to be friends on his timetable and when he wants to "use" you. They also want to be able to tell the world that you are friends w/him/her so that they look like good people.
Don't drink the kool-aid. You can be civil to them, but you don't have to be "friends" w/them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
