I can understand where you are coming from in thinking about this.
I have to say, I had similar questions not so long ago.
For me, for the most part, I no longer feel like I'm sacrificing my feelings for my husband. When I do find myself feeling like I'm sacrificing too much, I take that as a sign that it's time to re-focus on making me happy.
I'm also able to address issues and he listens to me. It may not always go as well as I'd like, but more often than not, I get better and better results.
I think part of it is that we are both still adjusting to living a 'solution oriented' life. It's just now, when I bring up issues that used to be issues before, I'm able to present it in a way that he hears better. And recently, there was a time, that I didn't think he heard me, because of the way he reacted. (He fled from the conversation)...but 2 days later, he took positive action...so he did hear and understand...it just took him a bit of time.
