Sat. I went to VeganMania with a buddy and had fun. He said women where checking us out. I didn't notice. Came home and W was out. Went out to a movie with a group of 5 before she came home. Got home at 10 and she was on her way to bed. Almost no conversation.
Sun. Went to see her Dad like we do every Sun. Put my hand on her shoulder while talking and she shook it off. Oops.
Back at home I steam cleaned our carpets and she helped move furniture and finished the laundry. She also spent quite a bit of time making squash soup from scratch. Made breakfast power shakes, (we always make 'em the night before) and cleaned up the kitchen when she was done. Played old country songs and classical / opera music the entire time, which was quite a change of pace for her. (and welcomed by me)
She also was doing a lot of typing on the ipad. Seemed to close a window as I walked by but I don't know for sure, and I never snoop. Very little conversation all day. Business only, unless I initiated, which I've been doing less and less of. Poor eye contact on her part.
After she finished cleaning up, I complemented her for doing such a great job and included details of what I liked. Her response: I didn't even try, I could have done a lot more. There was no smile, and no acceptance of the complement.
Question: When she is talking less, should I continue to initiate? If I don't there will be loooong periods of silence, which I don't like, but I guess might be ok. When I do initiate, she is courteous but does not engage; bare minimum response only. Like I said, I have been initiating less and less.
Maybe she is still hurting from Thursday night's conversation where I said I had no plans of leaving our house?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
