So H came over today. It was interesting. He pretty much stayed all day long. While he was here he did some of his laundry and got the stove out of the little house on the other side of our property. Which was most definitely self serving. However, he also, changed my spark plugs and wires. Made the trip to pick them up from the auto place. Hung out with the kids and even stayed for dinner with them. That was good. All in all he was pretty nice to me and even called me honey and baby 8-o. Everything was definitely geared toward his maintaining a separate residence. That's okay though. We didn't have any R talk. None. The kids were wild. I don't know if it's the stress or what but really it was bad. Which in turn had my stress level way way way up. I managed to maintain fairly well. No anger or screaming. I am definitely a screamer. My very worst habit. Anyway, so we talked about different things. People we know that we have heard from and just random stuff. It wasn't great, wasn't terrible. Enjoyed him being here with them and told him that. Offered to help him with whatever he needs to move even though secretly I would like to burn that place down. Not really. but kinda.lol I even offered towels and pans. I think today was a big step in being less confrontational with each other so that is step 1. I did get upset at the kids. I went outside and sort of stomped off. Didn't realize it was stomping but I needed distance between the kids and myself. Just so happened he was outside in front of the house on the phone and I sort of passed him. He came right down there to see what was the matter and was worried I was mad at him. I found this to be weird. I was upset but not with him and told him that. He seemed better but even said- Oh I thought you were upset with me. So here I am. He said specifically I will see you Tuesday and I am confused again. I also caught him looking at me a couple of times and he just seemed a little different. I am not upset or anything so that is good. To be honest though, my kids are killing me. Their behavior is sucking. Really. I am trying to make some concessions but at the same time, I can't allow them to run wild. Ugh.
Has anyone here (LBS spouse) ever wondered if they were being DB'ed back? I'm wondering. Seriously. I read back over my old thread and I had forgotten he read the book. Maybe I am wrong. Just some coincidences. I dunno. That probably sounds dumb. It could just be that he is so detached naturally. lol Probably wishful thinking on my part. At least then that would mean he wanted to put this back together.
