It is like she is getting angrier the more 180s I do and becomes more distant yet says nothing. Is this normal?
Yes. It takes months before the spouse will believe the 180s are real and not just a trick to earn them back. In the meantime they will be ambivalent or even angry about the changes. Just stick with the game plan.
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I don't want to go down cheeseless tunnels if there is no reaction.
180s are as much for you as they are for her. It's taking stock of the things you've been doing wrong and doing the opposite of those things. It's important that you view these changes as a permanent, needed set of changes that you need to make for yourself. Because if you view them as temporary tricks to earn her back, she'll see right through it. 180's on your faults are never cheeseless tunnels.
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But shld I also stop if it is a bad reaction? At least she must be noticing! She did mention a while back that she had seen changes but it made her angry that I cld not have done it sooner and that I have adapted so easily! Do I keep going in the hope that the anger will pass?
Remember the 180 DB tips. Don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see. She's in turmoil right now on the inside and she will react to your changes in strange ways. Just stick with the plan, always be positive, happy and cheerful towards her regardless of what she displays to you.
