Weight is a major issue with Mom to (sigh). It has been for all MY life it seems I have done all of the things you have done with your sister to no avail as well. She is a diabetic and has been dignosed as morbidly obese...to all of those who love her it is imperative that she lose weight to improve her health and prolong her life (even if she is a little nutty we would still like to keep her around )...to Mom it is an "IMAGE" problem and the rest of us care just beating up on and making fun of her because she is fat. She also tends to think that my father's love is measurable in pounds...the more she weighs the less he loves her etc. A vicious cycle to say the least.
She got totally PO'd at me because she asked me to make her a sugar-free chocolate pie for her B'day and I didn't do it. I was going to but she had previously made it very clear to me that she was back on her diabetic diet and was sticking to it...she asked ALL of us to help her and support her and NOT let her slip. She was so adamant about it that pops even bought her the exercise equipment she asked for for her b'day even though experience has taught him she DOESN't follow through and the equip. ends up gathering dust.
She asked me where her pie was. I told her I didn't make it because she said she was back on her diet and wanted to stay on it. She yelled at me "THAT PIE IS ON MY DIET!!" I TRIED to patiently explain to her that yes, she could eat a cup of sugar-free pudding but NOT a whole darn pie, that the pie would still be fattening regardless of it being sugarfree (I counted the calories when I went to get the ingredients) and that I WASN'T going to enable her when she asked me not to. She screamed she'd make it herself then and I told her that was fine, that was her choice to make. The thought was also in the back of my mind that she would eat the whole pie, deliberately make herself sick and my work get flushed down the toilet...I wasn't about to enable that either
SHe hasn't made the pie yet
And my mom started out as a brick in regards to my deteriorating M to at the time. Then hers tanked. I think she was expecting me to jump in the pity pool and join her in the H bashing and vindictiveness she was partaking in. She was incredulous when I told her that she was acting like a spoiled child and her behaviour was shamefull to say the least (she did some really whacked out things). She tried to tell me "the same thing happened to you, this is what you SHOULD be doing". My turn to be incredulous after that statement!
She still doesn't SEE how I can deal with things the way I have, WHY I don't continuously hold my H accountable for his transgressions, why I don't take back what I am owed...heck, she doesn't even understand why I take on part of the blame. She won't accept the reasons I give her. I stopped trying to explain it to her, now I just tell her that it was the CHOICE that I made.
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
I have done all of the things you have done with your sister to no avail as well. She is a diabetic and has been dignosed as morbidly obese...to all of those who love her it is imperative that she lose weight to improve her health and prolong her life (even if she is a little nutty we would still like to keep her around 
)...to Mom it is an "IMAGE" problem and the rest of us care just beating up on and making fun of her because she is fat. She also tends to think that my father's love is measurable in pounds...the more she weighs the less he loves her etc. A vicious cycle to say the least.
