IC = individual counseling. There's a handy abbreviation list above in the newcomers section. I hand to print it out to begin to understand the slang around here. I'm unsure of the nest time for you to approach H with moving out, however I can offer 2 bits of info 1. Do your best not to say or so anything hastily, out of anger or fear. 2. Be prepared for H to say no, when you ask him to leave. My WAW has refused to leave thus far. I can say though, that she has learned that I will not be a total doormat in the sense that she has begged me to stop telling her to leave. I've only said it a few times here and there when she has brought up R talks. So I guess a 3. Find and implement some safe non pursuing boundaries for yourself. It's hard at first, but with support here you find your way. Hang in there for you and your D.
