Tomorrow is my Hs bday. I spontaneously bought him roses,which I have never done before (180? or gift-giving?). He seemed irritated when he saw them but also curious about WHY I got them...I just said "for your bday & I felt like getting them for you," with a smile.
He frequently goes to the bar at least one weekend night (alone) & before he goes he asks if I want to have a drink with him and talk--R talk. I try more and more to let him drive the discussions so he doesn't feel like I am pressuring him about where he's at. We mostly talked about when we would be telling the kids he's moving out in a month.
But he also talked about his mom...his mom passed away 8-11-12 & he feels like he hasn't really grieved like he should because of our R troubles. He did say that he thought he would think about her more when he got his life "back on track." He said maybe he should see a C to deal with his lack of emotional response after her death (although he was a complete mess all summer about her impending passing). I thought it was great he finally mentioned seeing C all on his own! I don't know if he'll actually follow through or not, but it must be good he's thinking about it.
He has not mentioned OW in a while & neither have I, but his EA with her continues, I know--it's sort of the "pink elephant" right now. It sometimes feels like she doesn't even exist, but then he goes into his drinking or emotionally distant mode, or I've got to get out of this house right now mode, and I realize he doesn't want to be here with me. That really hurts me to the core. I need help in what to do / how to detach! I feel like I am GAL but my energy and thoughts are mostly focused on him & us.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
