Yeah, I know I can't "fix" my parents...I have told Mom this on numerous occasions because I know she looks to me to do this...it is the role-reversal thing that is between us.
I can offer her the "tools" to use though to make the improvements she claims at times she wants. It is in my offering where everything spins out of control
Let's face it...I get angry when she asks me for suggestions and then, out of hand, says that none of them will work or that I am just crazy or wrong. I am frustrated by such easy dismissal of an idea without it even being TRIED first. Why ask for help or to be listened to if none of it makes any difference to you or to the assumptions you are going to make regardless?
I have tried refusing to be sucked into her sitch, asked her NOT to talk about it, offered no suggestions of my own, just listened to her rant, ignored her ranting altogether etc. These actions usually result in an escalation of her undesirable behaviour.
I have tried DB'ing her...to no avail.
The only conclusion I have come to so far is that She has to be the CENTER OF ATTENTION at all times and she will do whatever it takes to make that happen. Even if it means humiliating herself and those around her in the process. All that matters is that the focus is then squarely on her
I am even aware that the best person to address these things with her is a mental health professional. I can get her to see one but the problem is SHE LIES TO THEM! She has told me this herself and GLOATS over the fact that she put one over on them
Thanks for listening...and I give that thanks to all who have read this current sitch as well as to Water and her great advice.
Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
