Your frustration with your family is understandable. I am struck with a recurring thought as I read your posts.... (It may not be popular)
Your parents are grown people and as much as you would love to help your mom see things from a different perspective, your dad be strong... you cannot force them. They must live their lives.
Their drama is effecting YOU! Your mom not giving up the pain and hurt is her choice. You don't have to save your dad or mom. They both play a role and I see you taking on way to much responsibility for their relationship.
It seems that roles are reversed somewhat. You have the benefit of all this wonderful knowledge you have gained through DB. Your parents are still infants in the R scheme of things. You now feel this need to teach them all you have learned.
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They must take personal accontability for themselves. You are allowing them to suck you into their drama. Detach from THEM!
Same type of principals as DB. Detach and focus on you. I agree with Sage. Do a 180. Then let them be responsible for their own actions. They are pushing your buttons... it is not good. I can feel the pain you are writing.
I hope this did not come accross harshly as that is not my intent. I am just sensing a lot going on here and this is a total outsiders opinion based on what you have written.
As with all DB principals, you must find what works for you. What you are doing right now is not working for YOU and it isn't making a darn bit of difference to them! You havn't "fixed" them, nor can you. Only gotten more frustrated yourself.
