SOmetimes I wonder if I will ever be able to pull both feet (not to mention my a$$) out of Zooland, H asked me the other night WHY I had to analyze everything...I told him "it's my nature"...h told me I needed to change my nature then
Well...you probably know that I can relate to this...my h described it as "having to chew everything up and spit it out". Nice visual.
Simple truth is that I LIKE thinking about things and mulling them over in my mind. I like mentally testing a variety of solutions and playing them out.
what neither of us likes is when it starts to have a negative effect on us...when my analysis leads to a negative spin on the R or on life in general.
So...I'm trying to use it for "good" not "evil" because, frankly, like every other trait the analyzing side of me has both positives and negatives! The same analytical mind that can wreak havoc can also create a complicated vacation plan...or it can help me solve a tough staffing problem at work...or...you see the point.
when I start thinking that I HAVE to change this part of myself that I actually kind of like I get resentful and angry -- a la "why do I have to change this thing that may have actually helped us save our m?" -- 'cause seems to me that DB'ing can be easier if you've got that kind of mind that you can use moderately...
So...try to strike a balance...keep the mind busy analyzing things that don't impact your R (puzzles, work stuff, etc)....
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
because, frankly, like every other trait the analyzing side of me has both positives and negatives! The same analytical mind that can wreak havoc can also create a complicated vacation plan...or it can help me solve a tough staffing problem at work...or...you see the point.
