Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[breakdownbill]

Thanks Newman

I have been so lucky with advice people have given me so far on my road.

I've read a bit of your sitch as well and what I can say to you is that the longer you leave the disrespected boundary without sufficient consequences for their actions, the longer you will be enabling them to continue to do so.

People can talk until they are blue in the face and still be ignored. An action needs a reaction, sometimes it's a noticeable change, sometimes the reaction is to disregard the action and carry on, but it is still a reaction.

My sitch has ended up the way it is partly because of the dynamic of our relationship. I backed down far to easily along the way on arguments, decisions etc. This led to a lack of respect for me from my W, a mistake that I will never make again with my W or any future R.

If you end up down the road where I am at, you will just know when you've had enough.

Good luck Newman

Bill