Zooland, The Trials and Tribulations Of...

[sage]

I really don't understand this. I have read so many different posts here on the BB where an A was involved and I have yet to see anyone as "out there" as she is...someone who for all intents and purposes is lucky but would rather be consumed by all that poison. I know that everyone deals with this type of sitch in their own way but there does tend to be an underlying theme of WANTINGto forgive so we can enjoy our new M/R to it's fullest...or am I wrong? I had the same thing happen to me as she had, my m was in far more danger of ending even then hers was but I still can't understand the need she has to cling to all that ugliness.

Well...I've seen maybe one or two posters who were committed to clinging to their pain and "unforgiveness" but I think that the stats are probably skewed...IOW...the BB likely doesn't attract posters who are unwilling to let go of their pain...it would attract folks who are trying to work through it.

Any ideas out there?? Comments?

Well...how about a 180 on your mom? Sounds like you've been trying to show her "the way", to talk her out of her current mode of operation. What if you started agreeing with her instead?

As she gets worked up being convinced that dad is cheating...you get worked up...instead of disagreeing with her, agree with her?

Sage