Professional help, for each of you, is needed here. DBT is a great suggestion. Also, don't forget to take care of yourself (emotionally speaking). I'm diagnosed bi-polar for about 2 1/2 years, on correct meds, but am currently starving my Hus. Not like I'm bragging about it, just saying it like it is. 1 out of our 3 kids are up and out. These boards changed my life, got me to see that I needed to get help for myself. That the only person I could change was Goldey. Hopefully the mods will let me suggest you check out NAMI, the National Alliance for Mental Illness.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots