Hey Tori, thanks for dropping by. I'm back in detached mode this morning. Thank goodness that ride on the rollercoaster didn't last long. Past occurrences of touch & go would of had me in tears but there have been none, so something's switching in me which has to be a good thing. What will be, will be.
I don't know about him thinking he has me in the palm of his hand. I don't think he thinks like that. I told him in Aug that sometimes I think he's playing w my emotions & laughing at the fact that I'm still around. He said he'd never laugh at me.
I've thought a lot about the role attachment theory plays out in mlc where the crisis comes from unresolved childhood issues. I think the touch & go is about feeling secure in relationship, just as children do at a playground they chk moms there & then play for abit then chk again.
H's folks from all accounts didn't meet his emotional needs, were not there for him so he has ambivalent/avoidant attachment. Inside his inner child thinks he's not good enough cos if he was they'd have parented like 'proper' parents. What he can't see is that it's never the little ones fault. How can it be? And its not as if the child can think 'mom's selfish & dad's a jerk, I think i'll pack my bags'. I'm rambling....
The strong, independent, detached me will respond when it suits me & when I can do it w no expectations. What I've noticed is I expect instant ansas via txt but not via e-mail. I don't want to txt anymore, I want phonecalls or activities.
