I think the "sitting with the pain" reference is basically letting it be. If you resist something, it becomes stronger. It's the third Law of Newton, and a fact. So if you resist the pain, you'll feel more pain. If you resist your S leaving you, they'll leave you faster (and this is the whole premise of DB--letting the WAS do his or her thing and focusing on one's life.) As I said, I do see hope for you and your W. Keep us posted on what happens.
