Im standing because I think it can be restored in time. Not for the marriage that I was in - but in one that is better than what I had before. BECAUSE I AM FIXING MYSELF. Whether or not it is with my X, thats not known though at this time - but I do hope that it could be with X.
That is the right attitude that will save you the most pain. If it is god's will for you to end up back with your ex, then it WILL happen. As you are showing now, the focus needs to be on you. Good job Mrs D.