Well Is been awhile so I thought I’d update… Shortly after I started IC wife approached me to say she was now open to go see MC, not because she wanted our M to work but to see if it could work. Not as positive as I would like to hear but a baby step in the right direction I believe. Went to MC 2 times each time we had long R talk after later that night. After the second mc meeting talk she told me she wasn’t comfortable with that C. I said no problem, asked if she just wanted to stop MC altogether or find someone else? ( First C was really hard on her, or so she felt) she said she still wanted to go so I found another C, who by the way should have been the first choice, he’s one of the few pro marriage C around here. Things have improved since we have been going, they seem less tense and more friendly. Wife has said that part of her wants to fix us, another baby step. She laid out much clearer what the space she’s asking for is, this is no problem for me to give her. She has stated that even though it would be easier (take the decision to end the marriage off her) she doesn’t want me to quit of us, yet another baby step.
Sandi2 said this would be long road….she wasn’t kidding. W has noticed all the changes, shes actually commenting on them I haven’t pointed them out, but that’s double edged sword because at times they make her angry. W words where It pisses her off that now I’m trying to be 50/50 partner but she still see’s a deficit, as in her tank is empty and its going to take time to fill it up. Over all I feel much better with the direction our R is going but also kmow there is still lot of work to do.
