My guess is that your wife has major depression again.
Well anything is possible, but she is still on Zoloft (has been for over 10 years). When we were in MC the C actually said the same thing, that she felt like W was depressed. W did go see her PCP who told her that she didn't think she was depressed, but rather she was going through the normal "downs" of relationship problems. She left her med's unchanged. W generally seems to be pretty upbeat and positive, but she was always very withdrawn in the C sessions which is probably why the C thought she was depressed.
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Likely has issues/ trauma from childhood that still haven't been reconciled.
Highly likely. She was angry at her dad for dying, for many years she blamed him for it (he had MS). She never, ever discusses her emotions so I think a lot of that may still be bottled up in her.
I have two comments here. Your sich with your wife shows you how powerful MLC is. Depression IS part of it and I believe she is depressed, and with childhood issues, hormonal issues and whatever else we can think of.
The PCP is out of his league IMHO. Depression can be Overt or Covert. Hers might be more Covert(MASKED) right now.
Unfortunately there is nothing you can DO! She must face this time and get through it, I think you already recognize that.
In this, things will get much worse before they get better. This takes a long TIME to resolve. I am very impressed with your learning so far. Keep up the good work on the boards. Increasing your knowlege and moving yourself forward. Protect your kids if you need to. That may be the key to rebuilding your family in the long run.
Glad your son is in scouting as that was key for mine. He made it to Eagle with 5 palms and it has helped him in the rest of his life.
