I was Praying and Hoping that time would have allowed her to see things in a different light, but even moderate drinking for a relapsed ex-recovering alcoholic clouds the thinking and judgment functions.
That can no longer be my problem.
I still am undecided about the, ..... What If, ..... What if she changes her mind and gets back to AA recovery.
She was my ideal vision of a wife and mother from 2001 to 2007/2008.
I can not afford to sit back and wait any longer, but if that still can be a reality, i would love to start fresh with boundaries and openness and honesty. She WAS that way prior to her mom getting sick and dying.
I am still reading the DR book, 1st the chapters most significant to my current situation and then i will start and read it again.
I just finished meeting with the real estate investor and he will get back to me next week.
Ed
Me, 55 W, 36 T, 10 yrs S-9 M, 8 yrs 1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa 2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa W, AA relapse early 2009-Current W moved out 2-16-2012 New OM 5-2012