To the 'gay boyfriend' status. Lets get this straight (pun intended), We are having intercourse regularly. And as far as disrespect. I pushed the discussion because I wanted to be supportive. As further validation of my efforts, she mentioned just yesterday, when I made a crude joke (something she has complained about in the past) that the joke came at a time when she was "just starting to like me again."
I think progress is being made.