Thanks AnotherStander, I need brutal honesty here. I realized that I was doing things wrong and thought back to when I had read DR and the one technique that stood out for some reason was LRT, so that's why I chose it. I was wondering if I was jumping the gun, going to an extreme.
It seems you're saying that my situation isn't that dire to do LRT so I will go back and re-read 180's and the rest of the book.
I brought DR to work with me today to read on my breaks and I've wanted to read 5LL but don't have it. I've read a couple other books that say stuff like filling up a "self esteem bank account" by paying compliments and other small gestures that make your partner feel good.
Last night I decided not to say "I love you" and I'm staying away from it right now since I either get silence or "I know." I ask her if she needs help with things and I'm making sure to do small, nice things around the house. Within the realm of DB is it ok to pay compliments like telling her she looks nice today? Or is that too much like chasing and focusing on the physical?
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
