Wife in MLC? I'm seeking support / guidance

[ForeverYoung]

Thanks Arsene, I hope things are improving in your situation.

I think you did well about the house convo. Don't bring it up again. Maybe she won't either.

Literally the day after she dropped the bomb in March, I latched on to materials that taught me what not to do, so unlike many, I spent little time making things worse by crying, begging, pursuing, initiating Big Relationship Talks, etc. One of my common backslides was being drawn into the ‘trying to convince her’ mode the times she did initiate discussions on ending the M, so I was proud that I was able to avoid that last night.

Yes mate. I feel the same way when I see my W. Don't take me wrong, she has good days (which usually means bad for me) but overall, I realized that both her and I have physically aged over the last few months. Maybe happiness does keep you young.

Fortunately we both still look much younger than our age. (hence my forum name) Many people have commented or joked that it was because we never had kids. Kids are a lot of work and worry, so I think there may be some truth to that. I have little doubt that I could hook up with a younger (and hot) woman should we end up D, but that has absolutely no appeal to me. I don’t want to start over. I know what we had for 33 years was good and can be even better, so here I am on DB trying to wait/work it out. My next thread will be posted in the MLC forum. I’ll need to come up with a clever name for it.

Thank you so much for your support Arsene, and best wishes to you and your wife.