Wendylon, so sorry things aren't going better. I understand you questioning whether you even like H or not, I think we all cycle through that and question whether our M is worth all the efforts we're putting in when our spouses are doing nothing at all. All I can say is try to keep things in perspective, your overall game plan is to save the M and you're going to have a lot of ups and downs on the path and these thoughts are just part of the "downs". But stick to your 180's because they're as much for you as your H, and detach more to keep your sanity and improve your PMA. Then give H time and space to sort through his issues. Best wishes!
