That is how I framed it when I asked...."We are going to the corn maze would you like to come?".
Asking demands an answer though (pressuring him to go). Just tell him "you're welcome to come along if you wish" next time something like this comes up. No pressure that way. If he doesn't reply, then just assume he's not going and don't ever ask him again. If he wants to go then he'll tell you sooner or later.
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I haven't gotten the book yet, it should arrive in the mail next week. I am trying to handle this with grace but when he told me he was going away, I just clammed up and didn't speak at all, even when he came into our bedroom to say goodnight. I should have just to make it "appear" it was no big deal.
Right, act "as if" everything is fine regardless of his attitude. It goes over this in DR. Act like you don't care what he does and it doesn't affect your PMA (positive mental attitude) even if you're really hurting inside. Eventually you won't have to act because you won't care, you'll separate yourself from the roller coaster.
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What do you think of my MLC theory above? Could mine have caused his?
Cadet said it best, yours may have started his, but it's not your fault. He would have gone through it anyway. If it is MLC, then like Cadet said it's very important to detach yourself and stay out of the way.
