Quote: He never said "I've changed my mind about wanting a D".
This is good to hear. I believe that I am still in the crisis mode even though my H seems to be back in the M and out of the A. I think to myself every day that, since he hasn't verbally expressed to me that he has changed his mind, then he could go through with D at any time. This is some PTSD working here and it's good to know that you never were officially told that the D was off. I guess we have to follow our own advice...it's the actions that are more important than the words.
Quote: .... my h was involved with an ow for 5 months (I could "feel it" -- he denied it). I found DB'ing and the BB about 6 weeks after proof of the A came to light. I've been on the boards now for 15 months -- DB'ing is a way of life for me now!
I amaze myself about how right I was about my H's A, even though there was no proof at first. I agree with DBing being a part of life now. Dbing has saved my M and has made me a better and stronger person. I like who I have become and DB will help me to continue to grow and be better!
I'd like to understand more about your financial insecurities. I don't mean this insultingly at all, in fact, I admire your ability to look at this challenge and face it. The reason I ask is that my H totally freaks out about anything financial. Just this morning I found out that the bank made an error and he was ranting and raving. There is something deeper than just being upset about the error. There are some deep emotional issues involved that I have seen throughout our 8 years together. We are doing fine financially but I think that he still feels insecure. Have you been able to pinpoint what is at the heart of your financial/emotional challenges? I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.
Christine
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