You are doing the right thing...OM bad traits will surface soon enough and she will get tired of him...there is a reason they call it the rebound..but rarely does it work out..you know that.
No no no. You weren't being offensive. I've noticed when I read soneone else's sitch I can see it from the outside and I know if I apply it to my own sitch I'd be better off. You weren't offending me. It's great to have your support.
Kevin
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
The longer apart any contact with my wife becomes, the less anxiety i seem to have. Mine moved out 7 months and 10 days ago.
Isn't there a book store or a library for you to get the book quicker?
Why the procrastination?
Ed
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Me, 55 W, 36 T, 10 yrs S-9 M, 8 yrs 1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa 2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa W, AA relapse early 2009-Current W moved out 2-16-2012 New OM 5-2012
So far my wife has not been intouch (she has though put money in my account to cover the bills that's still being taken from my account).
Am planning to buy my own place but money is tight. Even though I've never fully asked for what am untitled to from this divorce (which in Scottish law is 50/50 of all assets and debts including pensions and so on) am going to need more money so I can start putting my life back together. Don't get me wrong this isn't about money but more about looking after me and standing up for what am intitled too.
What's people's thoughts on this matter. Am not looking for any more of less than what the law says am due.
Kevin
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
The advice to women is always to protect yourself financially, to consider the splitting of assets and spousal support it a business matter only. Separate the emotion and don't give away your rights.
The same advice, I think, would apply to you.
Just remember to be calm, cool and collected during the negotiations and get information on your entitlements for yourself. Don't rely on what your wife tells you.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
Yea I know, I agree. In all fairness Scottish law does seem to agree on a 50/50 idea. Bottom line also is she had an affair, feel in love with the knight in shining armour, expects to give me a pay off and get everything her own way.
It's gonna require a big change in attitude by me to stand up to her and not give her what she wants as I always did.
Kevin
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
Am looking great. Lost 3 stone. Am almost the ideal weight for my height. I have fantastic shoulder and arm muscle due to my working out (do have a cold though at the moment/maybe man flu) my chest muscles are getting in shape. I just need to get my feet on the floor now and get a home for me.
It's time to look after me.
I do genuinely want my wife to be happy even though I still hurt because of her affair but its time to forgive but not forget. None of this was my choice. Maybe I did some things wrong but I was never nasty or bad in my marriage. Maybe I got a little lost with communicating but I know 100% for sure I put in a ton of effort and my wife put in the minimum of effort.
Everything that's happened has been her choices.
She is still trying to control this divorce to benifit her.
I just want now what's fair. The law is there to protect us both. Not to benifit one person. I will admit my conscience doesn't like fighting over assets and money but I need to look after me.
Kevin.
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
Maybe you should just rent for now...Why do you need to buy your own place? As I see it Europe is in trouble and the Euro is probably not going to make it with Greece,Italy,Spain etc...hold on to as much cash as you can there might be oportunities that you could never have imagined and why be tied down with a mortgage....
