LOL I was just rereading that- He only has a microwave and he chose that over dinner with them. Maybe he felt like that was taking something from me. I don't know. He said once before I just don't want to owe you anything.
The other thing is he does refer to here as my home. Not his. He said can i use your bathroom? Ironic thing is that he owned this house long before I knew him. At least 10 years before.
So he is definitely detached in his thinking. I am not having a good night and completely confused.
What has me most confused is that he says that I have rejected him for years. He is referring to sexually and really we have had no intimacy otherwise either. So how does detaching help that? Does that make sense? Not detaching but no contact- How does not showing any interest help that?

That is the point I have been stuck at for some time and what is making me second guess that. I really want to make the most of the little bit of time I will see him on Tuesday so any input would be great. He was very cold today as yesterday and it has me a bit freaked out. Not the crying, crazy, panicked me I have been in the past but the holy crap is this working or backfiring kind of freaked out. Frankly, I don't have any wiggle room for screw ups. I am really also puzzled as to why someone would want to live as he is. I really think he has been lying all along and is staying with a woman. I mean I realized he took his computer. Why? If you have no internet connection and you really do nothing else why would you take it?
Makes no sense. I am guessing more of this is still yet to come out. I hope I am wrong. That is my firm and hard line and he knows this. I just don't know what to think and do. I know I need to detach and all things considered I think I am doing well in that respect. Frankly, he doesn't know I feel and think all of this and that is the main point.
Anxiety is very high tonight. I think he did tell the truth in that his phone is dead. D10 tried to call him before she went to bed and the phone seems to be off. It was dead when he was here and he was concerned he had left the charger. So my guess is that he never did find it.

Back to the question at hand, though, how should I handle Tuesday?