Ugh. It's frustrating to read this, because you say you've read DR but then you do everything the opposite of the book. Why are you trying the LRT? You haven't even done any 180s that I can see. You just keep up the same harmful behavior that got you in this spot in the first place. You've been verbally abusing her, she keeps telling you to stop but you keep doing it and blaming it on her for starting it. Your situation is not going to improve unless you make changes to YOU. It sounds like it's not too late, but you've got to read DR again and this time follow the techniques.
And if you think parading around naked and/ or cuddling in bed is going to fix things you totally misunderstand how women are wired. They don't want sex when they're angry, they want compassion and understanding. Read the 5 Love Languages, learn your wife's primary language and start filling her tank up. You sound like you've nearly given up and you haven't even started yet, so get DR and 5LL and start with a beginner's mind (Step Number One)!
