hrm,

snodderly's advice is spot on - as always!

The acting normal in front of others makes it so hard. It makes me feel like I'm going mad. Good to know this is all part of the script.

The non-reporting of family news is also hard to bear. But knowing that it's just part of the standard pattern helps a lot.

I'm hanging on to snodderly's tip that family and others will eventually see what I have seen and realise i am not 'mad' or 'bad' (at least not as bad as I presume H has made me out to be as the cause of our breakup).

Wonder how long it takes for our h's to reveal themselves to others?

Hang in there!

Best, NLW