An Exercise For Forgiveness

[sage]

Hiya Acorn,

CONGRATS on the no smoking!!!!

Could you say more about how you've learned to love *a man* (as a romantic partner, presumably)? How do you think it is different from loving a woman as a romantic partner? Just interested in your comment and would like to hear more...

So...my comment wasn't intend to mean that men need to be loved differently from women...

It was intended to mean that I was taught that men weren't "worthy" of love...IOW...

I learned growing up that women were:
emotionally superior
stronger
more committed
more loyal
braver
more well rounded
right
etc....

And I learned that men were:
broken
waiting to take advantage of you
always after something
unable to truly give
unable to truly commit
mean
dishonest
etc.

So, when I say that I never learned how to love a man, what I really meant was...I never learned that I wasn't somehow "less" something if I did...

I put my h thru the wringer thinking and acting as though I was perfect and right and he was NOT and was just waiting to take advantage of me.



Sage