I did see him this evening. He came over anyway, apparently his phone is dead. I dunno. Anyway, I was not rude but I was not overly nice either. I was polite. I simply explained with he and the children both present that 1. he would have to actively be the parent on Tuesdays and that 2. If they continue to have a melt down for 2 days after he leaves that we will have to make other arrangements. I said it without anger, or animosity. Just matter of factly told them how I felt.
He did ask to use the restroom. I noticed him looking in the bedroom when he walked down the hall. I think he was looking to see if I had changed anything. lol I was making dinner most of the time he was here. I did offer him to stay and eat with the kids. Exact phrase I used too. I actually don't get to eat with them much anyway due to having Celiac but I did say... you are welcome to have dinner with them if you like. They wanted him to stay of course he didn't. As far as I know he has no stove or anything. There has still not been any mention of OW or anything. Of course, there could be. Who knows. I don't really believe anything he says or does at this point. Although, he did bring me back the drill and the keys to the other little house on our property so that was good. He is entirely too compliant. Therefor, I am starting to believe there is another dynamic going on, meaning OW. There were times in the past that time was unaccounted for. I really don't know and don't know if it even matters. I am in a frame of mind where I could really care less. Sounds odd. So I stayed strong. Never gave in, never got baited, kept to the topic at hand and basically dismissed him when I was done. Not sure if it made any impression at all and again, I sort of don't care at the moment. I mean obviously I do or I wouldn't keep DB'ing but really the new actions just feel right and part of me is more worried about standing up for me and the kids.
I'm super aggravated that he has yet to call even one time to check on them. I have been calling him when it happens. I think I am done with that too. If he is interested he will take the initiative. If not, then we see where the priorities are. So that was my day. My night will be homework. I hope all is well with everyone here. Or as good as can be expected.