Accepting reality, moving on with my life

[breakdownbill]

Be firm and unwavering... You do not want to be perceived as the boy who cried wolf.

Great advice Denver, I will make sure that my W knows I am serious by stating that I have already sought legal advice & that I can't remain in this open marriage.

I'm expecting a number of possible reactions, but regardless of the reaction I get it won't change my decision.

I just hope that my W plays ball & we can come to a sensible arrangement for D terms on residancy, assets and finance.

My document is signed, so goal 1 is done.

There isn't an ideal time to break this news, but I'm thinking that if I do it on Saturday night she'll have all day Sunday to process it before going to work on Monday.

I didn't want her to sign a financial document & then 10 mins later - guess what.

Tomorrow night she is at dancing and a big part of me didn't want the OM filling her head full of crap while this is still raw, making this process harder than it has to be.

I feel ready for it & I know that she could turn nasty, but I'm standing firm & not moving out whilst this process happens.

After all these are my kids too, these are our assets and legally this is still our home.

If this causes her to move towards you and your M, you are going to have to see some real action on her part before considering changing your mind (if that's even a possibility at this point).

Knowing my W I'd be really surprised if she showed any interest in staying together, but it wouldn't change my mind.

I've had my eyes opened as to what a healthy R should be like and I've learned some valuable lessons from the breakdown of this M.

Some people can handle being walked over, disrespected, cheated on better than others. I lasted 7 months and I know that enough is enough for me now.

I came here wanting to save my marriage, but ended up rekindling my love for life, making the bond with my kids stronger than ever.

In a way I'm glad all this has happened, I wouldn't have had all this personal growth, I would still be letting life pass me by.

I will stay strong throughout everything and be that rock my kids will need to get through this.

Thanks for chipping in Denver

Bill