Ramblings and the sort from a 1st timer.

[Denver_2010]

let me ask you, did it take you requesting or filing a divorce to get your W to, well lack of better terms "remove head from rectum"? Dont know your sitch and mean no disrespect at all.

The short answer? Yes.

After 18 months, I told my W that I was done and that I was filing for divorce. I completed the paperwork, gave it to my FIL to give to her, and emailed her asking her to sign, have notarized, and returned to me to file. She stalled, then I stalled with a well thought up excuse... about 4 or 5 weeks after I had my FIL give her the paperwork, she started lighting up my cell phone... literally a week later she slept in our bed for the first time since she initially left in November of 2010... she has slept in our bed every night since.

Please seek out advice and more explanation from me and others before considering this though. I believe that it is literally the 'after the last resort technique' as described in DR. You have to approach it as such.