All good points guys and appreciated. I can tell you briefly what I have learned about me and exw since this happened. I am not a controlling person. But I don't like being controlled. It makes me angry when others try to control me. What I learned is that exw is a control freak. We ate what she cooked went where she wanted and did things always her way. I became resentful and got nasty, not always but that was the cycle. I think she cooks as a way to control, and she is very paranoid when I cook stuff. She does not like anyone touching her food or the stuff that will be cooked. And maybe she is trying to be the nice guy. Hard to tell. I eat what she makes because by the time I get home it's on the table. The only way to stop that it to ask her not to do it any longer.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
