Keep breathing...

[Denver_2010]

The MC stuff does sound positive. And you are getting good advice on how to pick one... pro-marriage for sure.

Please don't forget some of the stuff that we have been talking about for the past several days. Don't throw that out the window when you go to MC. You will be committing marital suicide if you go into that and start pointing the finger at your H. No doubt in my mind.

Always talk in terms of:

"I interpret H's [words] [actions] to mean -----. This makes me feel ---- "

Do NOT attempt to blame your EA's on your H's actions. I will repeat what I said a few days ago... no one made you choose to do that. You were in control of your choices and actions at all times.

I'm telling you this because I want you to succeed LA.

I will also throw this out there...

There is a great marital retreat called "A weekend to remember" It is put on by a group called Family Life. W and I went a few months before we began piecing. It was hard, but really good.