It wasn't meant to be a 2x4 Leo. You haven't been at this that long, so I realize that you are still in the beginning stages.
I look at it as a suggested guide... strategy.
Make no mistake, if you are going to be successful at this, you have to view it as a battle. You are lucky, because there is no OM (as far as I know anyway), so there is no enemy other than the guy in the mirror.
But, as with you any battle, you need to have a plan and a strategy.
I looked at what you are doing and what you are saying in your posts, and I didn't see any real plan. I am just suggesting the basis for a real plan.
I will keep following you and giving you my thoughts if you like. But you've got to come up with the strategy and do the work.
I think that you have a good shot at saving your M because I don't think that it is as dire as many others' here. That's a good thing.
Hang in there.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce