Separated and confused

[jendp]

Thanks for the advice so far. I have been so busy haven't been able to respond with more info yet.

I have been reading several other threads (going dark, etc.) and I'm afraid that being silent for over 3 weeks might actually be "more of the same" for me. I originally thought it was a 180 since I had recently been hovering, pressuring, and was an emotional wreck before he left. Also, it has been a really good time for me to GAL and focus on my thoughts. During most of our marriage though, I did not communicate much or very well at all especially when it came to my feelings. So now I'm wondering if maybe I should reach out to him.

I have heard and read others that have sent a letter to communicate. Maybe take responsibility for what I know I was at fault at during our M and show that I am not angry or blaming it all on him. Has anyone tried this? Would it just be another bad idea that would apply pressure and push him away.