Hey Ms. Pam,
thanks for the morning sunshine!

Work + school are crazy right now...I'm definitely learning a few more things about time management MUST apply liberally

Lots of positives over the last few days...

1. when I got home last night h started talking to me about the upcoming school year, financial aid forms, etc. It was completely clear that he had it totally under control...had a plan...had made some phone calls to get straight on what needed to happen and when and was completely willing, able and eager to hold the ball or rope or whatever on his own. We had a good talk about what his next steps were...some things that are still open, etc.

Yowza..positive upon positive here! H's commitment to school, his proactiveness about getting stuff DONE, his commitment to helping me/us feel more secure about finances, his taking hold of the sitch but also his SHARING of his ideas and plans....these things could last a WEEK in terms of ticking off positives!

At the tail end of the conversation I said...."wow, I can't believe that we just had a totally normal conversation about money...remember when every conversation about it was uncomfortable?" (Then it occured to me that perhaps I was the only one totally uncomfortable in the past!)...and he said "I think there's a lot of things that we can talk about now that we couldn't before".

YOU BETCHA.

2. had a movie/dinner date last night. Our original plans got messed up but h quickly came up with an alternate plan! Love the resilience! As we were falling asleep last night he said "I really love our dates".

Another YOU BETCHA!

3. I asked h last night if he had time to do a few errands for me today. he said "of course!" and then said "I love running errands for you".

How can I squeeze a YOU BETCHA in here?

Um...are things SO MUCH BETTER in terms of how we work together at home??

YOU BETCHA.

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.