No I had stopped on my own because like you said I felt better. I have been taking them steady since July. I have only felt down the last few days. I haven't felt like this since June when I wasn't taking them.
OK, good. I'm on them as well, and while they do help they don't totally get rid of all bad feelings, so if you're feeling a bit down due to your sitch that's to be expected.
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I have read both DB and DR a long time ago. You are right there is a lot of "more of the same" behavior and that is what I have been trying to break with her as of late. For myself I no longer fly off the handle or react to her when she gets angry and yells. That used to push my buttons and I would go right back at her. I haven't done that in months and I've been telling her in a calm manner that she can't speak to me like she does when she's angry and that is when she tells me that I used to do it to her.
Great, sounds like you're working on 180s and that will help. It's going to take her longer to accept that the 180s are real and not just acting, so stick with them. I would suggest that rather than tell her she can't talk to you in a certain way (which she may perceive as pressure or pushback), that instead you just tell her you think it might be best if you both take a break and discuss it later when the mood is better.
