Read the DB book (again if you already have, so it sinks in and reinforces in your head)
and really back off for now. Give her space.
Being the best dad you can be is a great endeavor b/c it's what is right for the kids, it occupies your mind AND
I think it's an emotional turn on at some level, for every mother. OM cannot compete with that.
But stop showing her your neediness. IT is not attractive.
What were you like when she fell in love with you? I bet more confident & fun and light hearted and strong. Be THAT man again.
Be interestING and interestED in the world around you, take a class or join something so you are less predictable.
GAL and involve new people so you are more occupied, more happy and a bit more mysterious...and stop obsessing.
It is so unproductive. Stay in the present so you don't keep looping around in your brain about what she MIGHT be doing or thinking or WHEN something is going to happen.
YOU WILL KNOW WHEN SHE WANTS YOU TO MAKE A MOVE, with her words or her actions...
Turns out all your worry today was for nothing b/c she WAS working, correct?
Learn a lesson from that...stay in the "now" and do your best to be the best man you can be.
Become that man and DB your butt off...then leave the results up to God.
Thanks 25! Yesterday was big for me. It did help to know she was really at work, I mean I still have my doubts but for me to put that on the side was an accomplishment. Well that's one day down, today is a new day. I'm getting better everyday.
Keep the positive environment. You are right I'm still obsessing I got to work on that.
I read DR, I have DB so maybe I'll read DB this time around.
GAL and meet new people, I was also thinking about that yesterday, I'll be on he lookout for that.
Kids are great, s3 played with me for 5 hrs last night and this morning first thing he told me "dad want to play again?". Broke my heart since I have to go to work. I just told him "when I get home buddy, I promise".
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
