I have been following your sitch and while I am still too new and too raw to offer counsel, I can offer you sincere thanks. Your last paragraph speaks volumes to me and helps me keep my own sitch in perspective.
I can only offer my continued support and prayers to you and hope that as I learn and experience more that I will be able to share better feedback and guidance.
M:44 W:41 M: 12 yrs W's EA began 3/12 Somewhere between WAW and MLC Still in same house