hrm, I would say you had quite a bit of time to think about things while you were home ill.
The gym could be his "addiction" and he uses it to ease his pain and a great way to take his mind off his current situation. As for his family, blood is thicker than water. However, if I were them, I would be questioning why the two of you are still living under one roof if he's that unhappy. But, who knows what he's told them.
They do act very normal in the day-to-day scenario w/others. They compartmentalize their lives, so we are put in a box and put away until they absolutely have to deal w/us. Some do go off the rails every now and then and the co-workers will look at them and shake their heads...but overall, they tend to act somewhat normal until the depression really bites them.
They generally don't tell us what is going on w/their friends and family because in their minds, they are "divorced" and we do not need to know anything about them. That's why he's not told you about the pregnancy. My xh was the same way and still is, but news of births, deaths, etc., will come to you in a roundabout way. It's really sad how they see us as the enemy.
Please do not take this stuff to heart, family and friends will eventually see the light of day, but it takes a long time for them to do so.
I hope you are feeling better today and please do not allow the mlc monster to take you down.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
