Wow, what a great post. Definitely one to print and re-read several times. I'm still "scared" to put this into full effect just yet but last night when I took my daughter to sparks I went out while she was there. H locked himself out of the house and text me when I was going to be home. Needless to say I didn't rush home. Then he 20 questioned me about my whereabouts while our daughter was at sparks. I am treading water because I am trying to earn back his trust still because I was the WAW at one point. So I told him I stopped at a friends house "for a bit" but he wanted to know where I was the rest of the time (sparks was an hour) but I didn't respond, just left it at that. We also watched survivor together and he made convo while it was on, I didn't initiate any of it so I thought that was good. When he did initiate it, I was polite, friendly and funny.
Again, this is mirror effect - at one point he was the pursuer and this was something our marriage counsellor talked to us about. And now I'm the pursuer and I need to back off but still show I love and care for him. Its going to take a while to find my middle ground. Anxious to get both books now!
