Your expectations are way out of whack LA. I get it. But I keep telling you, this is going to take TIME. Lots of it.

CONSISTENT CHANGES + SUFFICIENT TIME = CHANGE HE CAN TRUST

Of course he can't trust anything right now. That is NORMAL. And you can't go a day without getting into these conversations with him. To me, it would come across as extremely pressuring... almost nagging. Neither are helpful to your cause.

You are constantly disappointed because you seem to think that he is a light switch. That he can just turn back on his loving feelings for you. It simply does not work like that. TIME! PATIENCE!

Again, my advice to you is to plan the next 90 days. Be kind to him. Loving as much as he will let you. Let go of the expectations during that time. Stop being disappointed when he does not reciprocate or react like you want him to. Just stop. Let what you need, and deserve, in this marriage go... for NOW. This does not need to be solved overnight.

Just let go ... for 90 days... a blip in the span of your marriage ... reassess after Christmas.

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce