SS, I completely get your step-perspective. My situation was not even as bad as yours, or maybe it was just as bad but differently. In any case, I've landed pretty much where you have. I don't have the words for you to tell your H. I told mine, and I don't think there are any words that would have worked well on him. The minute there is any indication that you don't look upon the steps as God's gift to mankind, you become the problem. At least that's how it was for me.
You might want to figure this out sooner than later, especially if you think there's any possibility your H might not take it well. It might save you a whole lot of effort right off.
